Hi, I'm Scott.

I wasn't always "Coach Scott, Founder of Motivationeur.com".

I grew up in a dysfunctional and abusive home with both parents alcoholics who partied, drank and argued for what seemed continually.

When my dad passed away suddenly in 2003 at only 59, I didn’t really know how to “feel”.  We never had much of a relationship, and I never felt validated as a son by him.  Instead, it was often about worrying what I would say or do that would set him off.  

On the other hand, my mother was also abusive, but in a different way.  She manipulated my time and life, demanding my attention and companionship that she didn't get from my father.  In fact, when I wanted to go out and be with friends, she would often threaten suicide before I returned, guilting me into staying.  

Because of all this, I grew up with constant guilt and shame.  I struggled with self-love, self-esteem and confidence.  I never experienced my childhood, so I always tried to create that as a young adult.  This led to a lot of reckless behaviour that other adults couldn't understand because on the outside, I was an adult, but I was acting out like a child or teen and blaming it all on my abusive upbringing.   

To make matters worse, I had a small body build, so I always had trouble gaining weight or muscle - so yea, body (and thus, masculinity) hangups!  I felt intimidated by guys, especially jocks, and I was bullied.  I only felt safe with certain people who had more gentle personalities. 

The problem of low self-esteem and low confidence, not loving ourselves and our body shape, and needing others to validate us are way too common for both men and women.

But as men, we deal with an added burden of wanting to feel and appear masculine, but not even understanding what real masculinity looks like.  I mean there are the subtle messages we’ve seen and heard over the years about how a “real man” looks and acts, and he never shows emotion. When we don’t “measure up”, we feel deflated, weak, even worthless as a man.

Then again, the modern woman is often expected to always be "ON" - the SUPERWOMAN who juggles family and job in a breeze - and still manages to keep a perfect body shape!

In 2001, I was faced with another issue that would end up testing my self-confidence and masculinity in another way. I began experiencing severe mood swings – depressed at times, and then I’d be super productive and happy!

I spent years in this state, saw many therapists and blamed it all on my parents and childhood experiences.

During this time, I was often reckless, even callous at times, and lost a lot of really great things in my life that provided value and self worth.  I also lost a lot of productive career time. 

Then, through my own research, determined to be well, I finally came to understand what was really causing my life experience. 

It took some time to accept it could be that easy. But it was. And my whole life changed for the better - almost immediately!

There are, however, two other things I want to mention that helped me.

1. I have an unwavering and sincere belief in God as a Christian.  And I balance my work and other parts of my life with volunteer spiritual work.  This keeps me amazingly grounded and fulfilled. And I'm not ashamed of it. I am tolerant of others' beliefs and choices, and I ask the same of others.  In a world out of control, without boundaries or stability, having a moral guide and compass has been extremely useful to me personally. 

2. It’s going to sound weird, but here goes – STAR TREK - VOYAGER. What? Yup. Why?

Well, if you’ve never seen the series, Earth is in what’s called the Alpha Quadrant of the galaxy. But in Voyager, the Starship called Voyager gets thrown into another quadrant – the Delta Quadrant, over 70,000 light years away from Earth!  So, the captain and crew are lost, lonely, and desperately need to find a way back home!

What I loved about the show was that it was all about themes that touched home for me at that time – loss, feeling lost and alone, trust, relationships, perseverance, drive, passion, hope!

You’ll see that I incorporate Star Trek and Voyager into my business, simply because it played a huge role in my recovery and where I am now!  If you don’t know Voyager, or aren't a Trekkie by any stretch of the imagination, just ignore my goofy questions and references to it as we work together! Or go ahead and watch it!

So, if we work together, I want you to understand that where you see me now is not where I always was. I understand, that’s the point. Reality is, we’re all imperfect and all still a work in progress.

But, there is one thing I CAN say – I may have been beat up at times, but I’m UNbeaten.

And I’ve never felt more vibrant, content and strong as I do today, thanks to my own Personal Development, commitment to my Faith, and to my own Fitness and Nutrition journey.

As not only a Life Coach, but a Fitness Trainer and Nutrition Consultant – I’m inspired to help everyone to get unstuck, fit, healthy and happy!

If you’re not quite there yet, you can be. Trust me. I know the way.